One of the most common questions parents ask is, “How do I get my child to listen the first time?” While it may seem like a challenge, the solution often lies in how you communicate with your child. Surprisingly, getting your child to listen isn’t just about what they do—it’s about what you do first. By adjusting your approach, using positive language, and modelling good listening behaviour, you can foster better communication and cooperation.
- Set a Positive Tone
- Use Positive Language
- Get Their Attention First
- Model Good Listening Skills
- Keep Instructions Simple and Clear
- Be Consistent
- Practice Patience
Children respond more to the tone and emotion in your voice than to the words themselves. If you want them to listen, start by speaking in a calm and positive manner. Yelling or sounding frustrated can make them shut down or become defensive, whereas a friendly, confident tone encourages engagement.
Rather than giving negative commands like “Stop running!” or “Don’t do that,” try rephrasing with positive instructions. For example, say “Please Walk” instead of “Stop running.” This helps your child focus on what they should be doing rather than what they shouldn’t, making it easier for them to follow through.
Before giving instructions, make sure you have your child’s full attention. Call their name, make eye contact, or gently touch their arm. Children, especially preschoolers, are easily distracted, and if they’re not focused on you, they won’t hear what you’re saying. Once you have their attention, speak clearly and directly.
If you want your child to listen, you need to model what good listening looks like. Show them how to listen attentively when they speak to you by putting aside distractions and maintaining eye contact. When they feel heard and understood, they’re more likely to reciprocate and listen in return.
Young children can easily become overwhelmed by too much information. Keep your instructions short, clear, and specific. Break tasks down into simple steps, and avoid giving multiple instructions at once. This makes it easier for them to understand and act on what you’re asking.
Consistency is key when it comes to listening and following directions. If you only enforce listening sometimes, children will become confused about when they need to pay attention. Make sure to stick to the same expectations and follow through with consequences or rewards to reinforce good listening habits.
Children are still learning how to process information and follow instructions. It’s important to be patient and give them time to respond. If they don’t listen right away, gently repeat your request and remind them of what they need to do.
At Li’l Miracles International Preschool, we believe in nurturing effective communication from an early age. With the right guidance and a positive approach, teaching children to listen the first time can be a rewarding experience for both parents and children. Remember, when you lead by example, your child will follow.
Lalit Sharma,
Founder
Li’l Miracles International Preschool
